19 He said this to show the kind of death by which Peter would glorify God. After saying this, Jesus said to Peter, “Follow me.” 20 Peter turned around and saw the disciple whom Jesus loved following them. This was the one who had leaned against Jesus at the meal and asked him, “Lord, who is going to betray you?” 21 When Peter saw this disciple, he said to Jesus, “Lord, what about him?” 22 Jesus replied, “If I want him to remain until I come, what difference does that make to you? You must follow me.” 23 Therefore, the word spread among the brothers and sisters that this disciple wouldn’t die. However, Jesus didn’t say he wouldn’t die, but only, “If I want him to remain until I come, what difference does that make to you?” 24 This is the disciple who testifies concerning these things and who wrote them down. We know that his testimony is true. (John 21:19b-24, CEB)
What difference does it make what I do with other people? That has nothing to do with your faithfulness to me. You must follow me. The Greek word here clearly means to follow behind, not walk along side or anything else, you will see the back of my head.
And all of this comes after Jesus just asked Peter if Peter loved Jesus three times, for each time Peter betrayed him when Jesus was on trial.
We need to follow Jesus, and not worry about what others have from God. Because God is giving us what we need and others what they need and those will never be the same because we are all different people.
Loving People. Loving God.