31 When Judas was gone, Jesus said, “Now the Human One has been glorified, and God has been glorified in him. 32 If God has been glorified in him, God will also glorify the Human One in himself and will glorify him immediately. 33 Little children, I’m with you for a little while longer. You will look for me—but, just as I told the Jewish leaders, I also tell you now—‘Where I’m going, you can’t come.’ 34 “I give you a new commandment: Love each other. Just as I have loved you, so you also must love each other. 35 This is how everyone will know that you are my disciples, when you love each other.” (John 13:31-35, CEB)
This is how they will know you are my disciples, when you:
Make sure everyone follows the rules?
Make sure everyone mates with the right people?
Do not do anything someone might think is lewd?
Are perfect in every way?
No none of these. People will know you are a disciple of Jesus when you love people like Jesus would. Accepting them as they are, the way God made them. And saying they are lovable the way they are.
Not telling them they need to change, be different, not do those things before they are lovable. But loving them as they are.
We are to love one another as God loved us.
Loving People. Loving God.