Or do you not know, brothers and sisters (for I am speaking to those who know the law), that the law is lord over a person as long as he lives? 2 For a married woman is bound by law to her husband as long as he lives, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law of the marriage. 3 So then, if she is joined to another man while her husband is alive, she will be called an adulteress. But if her husband dies, she is free from that law, and if she is joined to another man, she is not an adulteress. 4 So, my brothers and sisters, you also died to the law through the body of Christ, so that you could be joined to another, to the one who was raised from the dead, to bear fruit to God. 5 For when we were in the flesh, the sinful desires, aroused by the law, were active in the members of our body to bear fruit for death. 6 But now we have been released from the law, because we have died to what controlled us, so that we may serve in the new life of the Spirit and not under the old written code. (Romans 7:1-6, NET)
So if you are divorced and your husband is still alive then if you are having relationships with others you are committing adultery. Only if your husband is dead. So a man can go and do whatever they want? If we read the text as it stands, yes, men are free to do as they please and women are not, yet I believe they text implies and has a deeper meaning that you are bound to the one you know in a biblical sense which is a very intimate way. In my understanding, marriage is complete when it is consummated. So when you know a person in the biblical understanding you are really married to them. And when we get hung up on the rules of things we get held down and feel the pressure of getting things right or doing things right.
So if we are released from the burden of feeling we have to do the right things all the time we will be freed to love and share grace.
Know you are freed to love and share grace.