Lousy Leaders Coddle

Coddling leaders are safe; compassionate leaders dangerous.

Coddling, like all leadership behaviors, reflects attitudes about yourself and others. Coddling isn’t compassionate it’s needy, misguided, self-important, and self-propagating.

The more you coddle the more you need to coddle.

Coddlers can’t stand to see others stressed or struggling, but growth and development require both.

Coddling or Compassion:

1. Coddling disables. Compassion enables.
2. Coddling rejects. Compassion accepts.
3. Coddling is doubt. Compassion is trust.
4. Coddling is short-term and immediate. Compassion takes the long view.
5. Coddling is about your ability. Compassion is about their capacity.
6. Codding makes others helpless. Compassion helps less and strengthens more.
7. Coddling is doing for. Compassion is doing with, often from a distance.
8. Coddling is walking in front, protecting. Compassion is walking behind, supporting.
9. Coddling is arrogant, I’m capable and you aren’t. Compassion is humble.
10. Coddling makes things safe. Compassion lets danger in.

Downside of experience:

It’s easy for you – but…