The Most Powerful Way to Enhance Influence

At least once in a while, forget about controlling outcomes. Build human connections.

Surrender:

Set aside the things leaders hide behind. Turn off:

1. Results.
2. Strategies.
3. Respect.
4. Vision casting.
5. Authority.
6. Planning.
7. Power.
8. Timelines.
9. Job titles.
10. S.M.A.R.T. goals.

Yield:

Take a deep breath and let go of doing, at least once in awhile. Connect by gently stepping toward people with an open heart.

Forget about what you want to do
and remember who you want to be.

The most powerful way to enhance influence
is removing your mask and being you.

“Surrendering means completely relinquishing any effort to control or manipulate the outcome. Surrendering means putting all effort into being completely authentic, real, and mask-free.” Chip Bell and Marshall Goldsmith in, “Managers as Mentors.”

Bell and Goldsmith on surrender:

1. Mask-removal.
2. Openness.
3. Vulnerability.
4. Curiosity.
5. Not dedicated to convincing.
6. Candid with the intent of helping not hurting.
7. Accepting candor from others.
8. Learning-oriented.